Embarrassed By Premature Ejaculation?

Maybe I’m wrong but I think every guy has experienced ejaculating too fast at one time or another. Of course not every guy wants to admit that and who can blame them. Aside from not being able to get an erection, not being able to delay ejaculation is one of the most embarrassing things a man can experience.

I remember vividly one particular time that it happened to me. I met this girl who really turned me on. The attraction was so strong that whenever I got close to her I felt myself getting hard! I mean this woman got me hot! She must have felt something for me too because it wasn’t too much longer before we ended up in bed. But not for long. She turned me on so much that I came within seconds. Needless to say I was mortified and though she didn’t say anything about it, she didn’t have to. She merely got up, got dressed and after a few awkward goodbyes, was out the door, leaving me to wallow in my own shame, embarrassment and gather up pieces of my shattered ego. To this day I cringe when I think about that night.

You know the worse thing about it? It had a residual effect. After that night for the longest time I avoided making any moves on any women because I was so afraid it would happen again. Just so you know, I’m not some super stud that beds women right and left, night after night. I’m talking about a dry spell of a long period of months. I was that afraid. The memory of that night haunted me. Still does.

If you’ve every had this experience, had the same problem of not being able to delay ejaculation, either occasionally or on a consistent basis, obviously you want to do something about it, otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this. If so, the Ejaculation Trainer is something you should look into and I’ll tell you why. Because it approaches the problem where it begins, in the mind! Sure you can get creams to rub on the head of your penis to deaden the feeling so you don’t ejaculate too fast. Or you can drink enough and that might allow you to last longer, that is if you can get an erection after consuming so much alcohol. But since everything starts in the brain, including sex and sexual attraction, doesn’t it make sense to tackle the problem where it starts? For my money the best way to solve the problem is to work on your mind.

Now whether you get the Ejaculation Trainer or another product or program, do me one favor: don’t give up. You CAN train yourself, you CAN work on your mental state to keep yourself from coming too fast. It make take a while, like it did me, but you can do it. Will you ever ejaculate too fast again? Probably. Admittedly I have. But for the most part, when I use my head, the one above my shoulders, not the one in my pants, I can use the exercises I have learned to control my urge to ejaculate too quick. But if I should backslide a little, I don’t let it worry me. I don’t give up and neither should you and usually the next time I’m able to control it.  Again, let me emphasize you can control your urge to ejaculate prematurely.

I will say from my own personal experience, it does help if you’re in a relationship and have a steady partner. If you’re working on controlling the come-too-quick-syndrome through a series of one night stands, it might be tougher to get control of yourself because usually under those circumstances there’s more pressure to perform. Plus you don’t know how patient your bed partner will be or if you do climax in seconds, will she just get up disgusted, get dressed and get the hell outta there like what happened to me?

For my money it helped that I had a girl friend who cared for me and had the patience to work with me. I’m not sure I would have been able to control it as quickly if I had been sleeping with a different girl on different nights. Not that I always got that lucky. But you know what I mean.

So again, you can train yourself from ejaculating prematurely. Don’t give up. You deserve a good, healthy sex life.

For me, the Ejaculation Trainer does work. If you want to learn how to delay ejaculation, the trainer will give you exercises so you can keep working on your brain until you’re able to control your urges. I am convinced the mind game is the solution.

Don’t ever give up until you’re the sex partner that you dreamed you could be. There’s a terrific lover inside you so let it out!

Take action! Visit the Ejaculation Trainer site and start your training today!

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Single Again and Confident in Bed

Haven’t posted for a long time. Like everyone today, there’s so much to do, read, take in, etc. that it’s hard to find time.

If you’ve visited my site before you might noticed I’ve taken down the picture of me and my fiancee Shannon. Or ex-financee, although I hate using that prefix ‘ex’ because it sounds like it was a bad breakup. It wasn’t.

Thing is, Shannon got a promotion and it meant she had to move to another city. I didn’t want to leave my job here so we had a tough situation. We tried to keep our relationship going but we quickly found out long distance relationships are very difficult to maintain. Unfortunately ours didn’t weather the difficulties. We remain friends tho and she recently emailed me to tell me she’s getting married! I’m happy for her but thought it best to take down the pic of her and me together. Don’t want her husband on my ass about it.

But I’ll always cherish her and my time together and especially the fact that she helped me tremendously with my “problem”. You know, the one that dare not speak it’s name, ‘premature ejaculation‘. With her help and patience and my addressing the problem, I was able to get a handle on it.

And you know what? I’m not scared to go out and meet other women because now I have confidence that I won’t embarrass myself if meeting a woman leads to sex. I still work on mentally controlling premature ejaculation and I’m sure on some occasions I’ll regress.

The thing is though, now I’m confident that I’ll be able to delay ejaculation and do it in a natural, healthy way.

No question about it, the Ejaculation Trainer helped me and if you have this problem, take action! Get a handle on it whether you try the Ejaculation Trainer or some other method but by all means don’t wait. Don’t let opportunities to enjoy your sex life slip away because of a problem you can fix.

Anyway, I’ll do another post later about my efforts to keep Shannon but right now I’m going out on a date with a woman I met through work. If it leads to sex somewhere down the road, I’m confident in my ability to last longer in bed.

If you want to learn how to delay ejaculation visit the Ejaculation Trainer site and get a handle on your ‘problem’!

 

 

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Prolong Ejaculation Naturally – Ejaculation Trainer – My Honest Review

Hi, Dave Kelly here and I want to thank you for checking out my site and for checking out my thoughts about The Ejaculation Trainer.

First off I want to make clear that I’ll be giving you an honest look at Matt Gorden’s Ejaculation Trainer. I want to give you an overview of the essentials that you need to know before grabbing a copy of the guide yourself.

If you’d rather skip the review and just go to the manual itself then:

Click here to go to the Ejaculation Trainer Official Website

So what is the Ejaculation Trainer?

Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual complaint among men. Most men experience it at some point in their life. This trainer is exactly that, it teaches you how to train yourself in a natural way to stop premature ejaculation using a number of techniques to control your body’s responses.

So many things play a part in the physical aspect of ejaculating starting with physical and mental stimulation. It’s important to know what part they play in ejaculation control.
If you experience prejac, it’s probably because you’re experiencing too much mental stimulation. The answer to that is to control your arousal responses.

What is arousal control?

Arousal control is the KEY to controlling premature ejaculation. The trainer breaks it down into 4 basic stages.

  • Physical and mental sensation which triggers an erection
  • Erection becomes fuller as arousal increases.
  • Sensations become more intense as more blood flows, engorging the penis resulting in increased sensitivity. Ejaculation and orgasm seem imminent.
  • Intense arousal and continued mental and physical stimulation lead to ejaculation and orgasm.

The important thing to remember is that a man can get to stage 3 with no physical stimulation. This is the one main reason men experience premature ejaculation — they were in stage 3 by the time they started stimulation.

The way to control it is to focus on keeping in stage 2 in order to last. You need to learn to recognize what stage of arousal you’re in and prevent it from increasing. Since the main triggers of arousal are mental, it’s all about staying in control in your head. And arousal control starts from the first second you begin a sexual encounter. It’s critical that you don’t wait until the last second and then go into control mode.

How do you control arousal?

The approach in Ejaculation Trainer is to focus on sensuality, not sexuality. Focus on what you are feeling, not just in your genital area but on your entire body as a whole. You must learn to pay attention and concentrate on what you’re feeling.

At times you subconsciously want to ‘get off’ even if you consciously don’t want to ejaculate yet. You end up giving in to these very powerful sensations, your body responses increase, your mental power diminishes and you are no longer in control. It can happen in an instant so you can see how important it is to learn how to pay attention to your body and its feelings and responses.

Building a tolerance to mentally and physically handle prolonged stimulation is KEY if you want permanent results. One way to train yourself is through masturbation. There are many techniques both physical and mental to help you accomplish this.

What’s bad about the Ejaculation Trainer?

  • One technique Matt talks about on how to satisfy a woman in bed is by giving her oral sex. By satisfying her first you take the pressure off yourself and as a result you’re more relaxed and are more apt not to worry about your performance. As Matt points out, the less you worry, the more in control you are. While ‘going down on a woman’ is certainly not bad to some, it may be considered offensive to some cultures and religions.
  • The techniques seem a lot to think about when you’re trying to have sex, when you’re trying to focus on too many things at once.
  • If you’re looking for something that will fix your premature ejaculation immediately, this is not for you. You must literally train yourself in it’s techniques.

So what’s good about the Ejaculation Trainer?

  • It’s an easy and enjoyable read. Matt has obviously studied this in great detail and gives a very comprehensive explanation of the physical and mental aspects of the act of ejaculating. The more you know about what’s going on in your body, the better you can focus.
  • The emphasis on getting control over your body, your mind and emotions. It will make you a much more effective and satisfying sex partner. Whether it’s controlling the stages of arousal or thinking of your arousal as a scale from 1 – 10 that teaches you how to regulate your arousal, it puts you in control and boosts your confidence as well, which your partner will sense, making her feel she’s ‘in good hands’.
  • The technique of focusing on the woman. A lot of men sometimes think too much of what they’re experiencing rather than what’s happening with the woman.
  • I can’t imagine any guy not getting something valuable out of this manual. By applying it’s techniques and methods, I’m confident that it will make you a better, more effective bed partner with the ablility to satisfy a woman.

Overall what do I think?

After reading this guide I have to say it’s probably one of the most detailed books I’ve ever read on the process and prolonging of ejaculation. It’s methods do require training but if you go to a gym to train muscles and get in shape, then it stands to reason that when it comes to sex, training to control your mind and body is just as beneficial and will achieve positive results.

I sincerely believe by applying it’s techniques and methods you will be able to last longer in bed and become the kind of lover you’ve always wanted to be. With new control and confidence you’ll have the ability to satisfy any woman.

I hope my review has helped.

D. Kelly

Click here to visit the Ejaculation Trainer Official Website.

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My Tip on Prolonging Ejaculation

A lot of men don’t want to hear it but it’s our responsibility to satisfy a woman. Where we can achieve climax in a matter of seconds, it takes a woman a lot longer to achieve orgasm.

So if you want her to enjoy sex too you must take care of her needs first, before your own. You have to become a better lover and that means prolonging ejaculation. That’s something that can be learned. That’s what the Ejaculation Trainer did for me. I didn’t want to use creams or devices, I wanted to do it naturally, and finally I did. It changed my life.

The great thing about it is that it’s not a temporary solution like it would be with that other stuff. It’s something that’s now become a part of me. Once you learn how to control it, you can be confident in bed knowing you can satisfy a woman. That’s a great confidence builder, and in turn women respond to that.

If you’re having a problemn prolonging ejaculation, or if your a woman reading this whose boyfriend/husband has a problem with premature ejaculation, check out the Ejaculation Trainer. I’ve found it’s the best way to prolong ejaculation. And that leads to a more satisfying and healthy sex life, for both.

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Control Your Premature Ejaculation

I’ve always stated previously that much of sex starts in the mind and that’s the best place to start to learn to prolong ejaculation. Forget creams, alcohol and physical manipulation. I’m not knocking those methods and if they work for you fine, but if you want a lasting way to remedy premature ejaculation, then for me the way is to control it with your mind.

After all a large amount of sexual stimulation and control takes place in the mind. Of course physical stimulation plays a large part, no question, but recently I read a statistic that when a man is asleep he experiences 5 or 6 erections during the course of the night. That’s as a result of no physical stimulation. Also these erections are not a result of a full bladder, the kind a man gets when he has to urinate, you know, a ‘piss hard’. So these erections are obviously from mental stimulation while he’s sleeping.

Then there’s this; I’m sure every man has experienced a ‘wet dream’ at one time in their life. You’re sound asleep and dream you’re having sex that’s so real and so intense that you ejaculate in your sleep. If this doesn’t prove that a large portion of sexual stimulation takes place in the mind then I don’t know what does. So it stands to reason that the best way to control your stages of arousal and overwhelming physical urge to ejaculate, is to learn to control it mentally.

This is what I’ve been trying to point out. And it’s why training yourself with a program like the one in the Ejaculation Trainer can be of great help. If you prefer a different program fine, but by all means try the mental route instead of the physical. With a little training, you can learn to prolong ejaculation naturally, with your mind.

Not only will you satisfy your woman, but your level of confidence will go off the charts because you will be in control. And women love a man who’s in control.

D. Kelly

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Mental Sex vs. Physical Sex

Okay, I guess that’s kind of a weird title. Sounds as if mental sex is just thinking about it, not doing it. But here’s what I’m getting at. I was talking to a friend and during our conversation the talk came around to what else, sex.

He finally admitted that ‘on occasion’ (his wording) he did experience premature ejaculation. That was after I confided to him my struggle with it and the progress I was making. I asked him about those rare occasions he experienced it, did he do anything to delay ejaculation. He told me he would ‘disengage’ (I’m trying to be as pc as I can here), he would disengage and then pinch the end of his penis until the feeling went away. I asked what would the girl do when he did this. He said she’d usually be frustrated. She’d have to wait while he pinched his penis till the feeling subsided, then he could start again. Then no sooner had he started, he’d have to do it again. He never told me how many times he had to do this or if it worked. I think he kind of felt that even admitting it was somehow a mark against his manhood.

It just seems like a cumbersome way to go about it. If you had to do that 3 or more times I guess it’s a way to last longer in bed because that certainly would take more time.

I told him how I was working on mine by using my mental processes, for one thing by controlling my stages of arousal. He did ask me how it was working and I gave him a best estimate, about 80% of the time, sometimes more, sometimes less. I told him he should try it but he didn’t seem to impressed and just kind of shrugged it off. I don’t think he was too pleased that he had confided in me and I got the feeling that it happened more often than he would admit.

Maybe his method works for some but I prefer the mind approach. I did try the penis pinching thing once and it just frustrated me. And the girl too. (Need I point out that I wasn’t alone?) Not only that, when the urge went away and I started again, it came back almost as fast and I had to do the pinching thing again. Same thing my friend went through. The stopping and starting method was just too frustrating for us both. Now, by using the techniques I learned in the Ejaculation Trainer, I’m training myself, so I’m able to prolong ejaculation in a natural way.

You’ve heard that expression that people use about almost anything, the one that says, ‘It’s all in the mind’. Same thing is true when it comes to sex. So when I say I prefer the mental sex vs. the physical sex I’m referring to being in mental control of yourself. When I’m in control of myself, I’m in control of the situation. When I’m in control of the situation, I’m more confident and when I’m more confident the woman has more confident in me that I know what I’m doing. Then we’re both relaxed and the sex is great.

So if you’re having that same problem, you might want to check out the Ejaculation Trainer. You can make it work for you.

 

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If You Want To Peform Like a Porn Star

If you want to be as good in the sack as a porn star then you have to learn how to satisfy a woman. And you can’t satisfy a woman if you ejaculate prematurely. Once you do, it’s pretty much over. So you must learn to control it.

I realize stopping from climaxing too fast is easier said than done for some of us. But I’ve been putting to use what I’ve learned in the ejaculation trainer and the other night I lasted 15 minutes! And that was during the sex act itself, after a lot of foreplay. I was able to control that stage of arousal before I got to the point where I was unable to stop my ejaculation.

This didn’t happen overnight and I’m not perfect every time but who is? I’m talking about real, average guys here, not porn stars.

I think porn sets up unrealistic expectations to most guys. In the pornos I’ve seen the guys seem to last forever. But don’t forget they’re filming and there’s a lot of stopping and starting so who knows how long he actually lasted in real time? Maybe he came too quick the first time and they had to break for coffee or lunch or something and came back an hour later to finish the scene. Now he could perform again and probably last longer. I saw this thing on the making of a porno once and it showed exactly that. The actors were having sex and then the director yelled cut and broke for lunch. I guess they came back later and finished up but it just goes to prove what I’m saying. You can’t gauge your sex by what you see those guys do.

If you’re having trouble lasting longer in bed you might want to check out the ejaculation trainer. It’s working for me and I would guess I’m pretty much like you. I’m an average kind of guy who struggled with premature ejaculation until I took action and have learned, and am still learning how to control it.

If I can do it, so can you.

Click here to visit the Ejaculation Trainer Official Website.

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Ejaculation Trainer – A Progress Report

I’m happy to say I’m doing very well. I’ve made great progress in training myself to prolong ejaculation naturally, without drugs, alcohol or the need to do anything to myself physically.

I know there are physical methods to stop from coming to quick, I’ve read about them, like pinching the head of your penis, stuff like that. But that always seemed to me to interrupt the whole sexual thing. I’d much rather be working with my mind than have to stop, disengage so to speak, pinch the head of my penis until the feeling subsides and then continue. What’s my partner suppose to do in the meantime? It seems to break the mood and bring everything to a halt.

See I believe the mind controls everything, even sex. Of course I suppose it’s possible to ejaculate without any mental stimulation. If I was in a coma maybe and someone began to physically arouse me I guess I could climax without even consciously knowing about it. I don’t know if that’s true, I’m not a doctor and have never read any studies about it.

But I’m not in a coma, that I know of, so when it comes to sex I’ve been using the methods laid out in the ejaculation trainer to control my stages of arousal. I’m learning to control myself before I get to the stage that would lead me to prematurely ejaculate and I’m able to last longer in bed.

Do I do it every time? Not yet but I’m getting more and more confident. And I’m finding out that confidence builds on confidence. Of course it helps to have a beautiful partner like I do in Shannon who understands and is patient. Plus the ‘training’ is so much fun. Sure beats doing exhausting reps in a gym!

Bottom line is the ejaculation trainer has really helped me learn self-control over my mental and physical responses. Maybe this sounds stupid but being in control of myself makes me feel more like a man.

If you want to learn to better satisfy a woman in bed, check it out.

Click here to visit the Ejaculation Trainer Official Website.

D. Kelly

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Premature Ejaculation – My Embarrassing Story

It was a few years ago but I remember it vividly. I can still see her look of disappoint, disgust?, hear the door slam and her car starting as she gunned the engine to get out of there as fast as she could.

I was helping out a friend DJing in a club that drew a crowd of smoking hot women. Even the women that worked there were hot. Ever meet a woman who gave you such a vibe that you got aroused just standing near her? Well, that was the hostess, Alexis. Man, was I hot for her! And I could tell she liked me as well. To make a long story short, after the club closed we ended up back at my place. We didn’t even finish our drinks before I went from first base to home. We were naked, in bed and it happened. Again. Premature ejaculation. It was practically over before it even started. I tried to make apologies but it only made me feel more foolish and embarrassed. I was so frustrated, mad at myself, angry at my body.

To make matters worse, I was deathly afraid she would tell all the girls at work about it! The next night when I walked in it felt like every female eye in the joint was staring at me.

I was tormented. Why can’t I last longer and satisfy a woman in bed? Why can’t I prolong ejaculation, only naturally. See, I didn’t want to drink loads of alcohol to keep from coming too quick. What’s the fun in that? Anyway, what woman wants a slobbering drunk on top of her just because he can last longer?  I didn’t want to take any drugs or fool around with creams and all that other stuff.

By now my confidence was totally shot. I started avoiding women, even those who seemed interested in me. Then I met Shannon. We hit it off right away but I avoided making any moves, afraid “my problem” would once again ruin everything. I didn’t dare tell her anything. What would I say, that I had an ‘ejaculation control’ problem? Besides, I didn’t want anything to do anything that might screw up this relationship.

So I took action. I found a program and learned to control my mind and train myself to prolong ejaculation. No drugs, no creams, no doing shots.

The upside of it all is that in the process I’ve learned a lot about myself. Plus I’m enjoying sex more because I can focus, not just on achieving orgasm and ejaculating, but on the whole sensual experience. As a result, I’m able to last longer in bed and more importantly, satisfy my partner.

BTW, this didn’t happen overnight. It took time, practice and training, but not ‘boot camp’ kind of training. While you’re training you’re having sex. What can be better than that?

D. Kelly

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How can I last longer in bed?

Naturally that’s the desperate question of any guy who consistently prematurely ejaculates. But let’s not forget the woman’s desperation. Thing is, sex is a team sport. And to quote a cliché, there’s no ‘I’ in ‘team’. So I’m sure women are just as interested in this topic as a man is.

I don’t have any statistics but I’ll bet a big percentage of women are searching for ways to solve this problem, probably without him knowing. After all, she’s left just as frustrated!  The big difference is, a woman is frustrated by her partner’s inability to last long enough to bring her to orgasm, but the man’s frustration goes far beyond that. It’s mixed in with feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, disappointment, extreme embarrassment and/or humiliation, anger, at himself mostly, and let’s not leave out the huge blow to his masculine ego.

So I direct this to any woman who might have found this blog: take heart as there are ways to overcome his problem, if you’ll pardon the pun. It will take practice and patience, but hey, isn’t the practice the best part? After all it’s not like tedious, repetitious piano exercises or something. Or painful reps in a gym. It’s sex. It’s great!

Take it from me, ejaculation training can be damn fun!

D. Kelly

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